tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post6187277231706578102..comments2016-07-08T07:07:50.361-07:00Comments on Book Club Hostage: From the Living Room to the SchoolyardKate Phttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-31880031804237643672011-06-29T19:36:58.340-07:002011-06-29T19:36:58.340-07:00I'm hoping my mom will just put her in her pla...I'm hoping my mom will just put her in her place if need be, actually, And I can just sit back and enjoy it. Thanks, Christine!Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-22306436002256391442011-06-28T20:44:53.200-07:002011-06-28T20:44:53.200-07:00hehehe
Hopefully your primary plan of action will...hehehe<br /><br />Hopefully your primary plan of action will work well (and gently put this girl in her place), so you won't need to resort to baser tendencies (unfortunately I probably would be my usual-passive aggressive-ness, as you correctly guessed)<br /><br />Good luck and God bless!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-33662294800771214052011-06-28T13:26:31.512-07:002011-06-28T13:26:31.512-07:00Christine--ah, it's a delicious thought but a ...Christine--ah, it's a delicious thought but a tiny bit passive-aggressive for me. I'm a little sensitive to that.<br /><br />That said, if push came to shove that's an ace I'm not afraid to whip out from my sleeve.Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-27592724588668785262011-06-27T21:31:59.192-07:002011-06-27T21:31:59.192-07:00Sara's suggestion below, combined with no. 2, ...Sara's suggestion below, combined with no. 2, sounds enticing:<br /><br />"Of course, while playing dumb and since she had the nerve to act like she was speaking for the whole group, it would be a nice opportunity, at your next meeting - especially since your mom is hositng it - to say that you have been contacted outside the group by someone who indicated that they were speaking for everyone else, and you had a thought about moderators, etc, and since everyone had seemed to discuss it before the email was sent to you, it would be good to discuss it as a group.<br /><br />And watch her squirm. Delight in the squirming. If she squirms enough, even call on her for her opinion while stating that you are doing so because she was obviously elected by everyone to get in touch with you outside the meeting."Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-42432376979706345052011-06-26T19:37:08.866-07:002011-06-26T19:37:08.866-07:00"Do keep a seat open for me next to you anywa..."Do keep a seat open for me next to you anyway, ok?"--HAHAHAHA!!!! Stop it--you are tempting me to be mean and grumpy! ;)<br /><br />I already told my mom I didn't want to sit next to her next time (and she has to stay in the kitchen anyway, right?), so YEAH, maybe the best place for me to sit IS next to Leona!<br /><br />I have been trying to figure out how to appeal to her egalitarian touchy-feely-ness, so maybe it would work to suggest that a general "concern" be brought up before the entire group.<br /><br />Ooh, maybe I can give her a choice: address it directly with my mom or bring the general concern up at the next meeting. Put the lousy friggin' ball back in her court where it belongs (and never should have left).Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-27987555860228295722011-06-26T19:29:33.561-07:002011-06-26T19:29:33.561-07:00Well, if you want to take the high road....
As fo...Well, if you want to take the high road....<br /><br />As for everyone not being there, it may teach Ms. Center of the Universe that her little snide actions will not go unacknowledged, and everyone else can be brought up to speed through emails relating the discussion and asking if they have any additional input. Perhaps?<br /><br />"My mom would like to know if I can nudge everyone who begins to dominate conversations, but that would involve a lot of moving around the room. Do keep a seat open for me next to you anyway, ok?"<br /><br />Ok, that's mean and grumpy.<br /><br />You can do a quick response of something like: "this will be addressed at our next meeting so that we all can decide how to best handle it. I know that my mother is not the only one perceived to be dominating conversations at times, so I think that it would be good to bring it to the table. Getting caught up in the moment happens to us all, right? Sometimes we may not even be aware that it is happening."<br /><br />That's slightly less mean and grumpy. :)Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03665794050418919719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-43773709902443182962011-06-26T17:12:44.874-07:002011-06-26T17:12:44.874-07:00Hahaha this whole THING is MAKING me mean and grum...Hahaha this whole THING is MAKING me mean and grumpy. I would looove to use both CCR's "pot, meet kettle," AND your "I apologize that the world stopped revolving around you for a few minutes. . ." I am fighting the urge to stoop to her level in the schoolyard. So. Hard.<br /><br />I really do like the idea of introducing something about deciding rules/protocol at the top of the next meeting; however, I know already that not every member can make it on that date. So maybe that's not fair? Hmmmmmm.<br /><br />My mom told me (and yes I told her what was up) that I really should respond, so I guess I will have to figure out what I'm doing sometime tomorrow. A week is long enough to leave her hanging. She sent it from her work e-mail after 5, so that probably means something, too.Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-47060293047376758312011-06-26T16:29:07.549-07:002011-06-26T16:29:07.549-07:00Holy moly...
#3 is probably the diplomatic way to...Holy moly...<br /><br />#3 is probably the diplomatic way to do things. I have to do it all the time at work to keep from trodding on delicate egos and keep the workplace all professional-like. Doesn't mean I like it.<br /><br />Of course, while playing dumb and since she had the nerve to act like she was speaking for the whole group, it would be a nice opportunity, at your next meeting - especially since your mom is hositng it - to say that you have been contacted outside the group by someone who indicated that they were speaking for everyone else, and you had a thought about moderators, etc, and since everyone had seemed to discuss it before the email was sent to you, it would be good to discuss it as a group.<br /><br />And watch her squirm. Delight in the squirming. If she squirms enough, even call on her for her opinion while stating that you are doing so because she was obviously elected by everyone to get in touch with you outside the meeting.<br /><br />But, I am mean and I am grumpy.<br /><br />Personally, I would probably reply with "I apologize that the world stopped revolving around you for a few minutes, and that your threshhold for the loss of the spotlight is only 4-5 sentences," and then find a bookclub more along my tastes as far as selections go.<br /><br />But, I am mean and I am grumpy.Sarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03665794050418919719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-78505060099158664292011-06-26T11:06:35.329-07:002011-06-26T11:06:35.329-07:00Two "wow"s is really saying something. :...Two "wow"s is really saying something. :)<br />Yeah, it's bugging me that she decided to get on MY back about the whole thing. The question is which option will take care of it, and I appreciate the feedback. You pretty much confirmed that #4 is fantasy, unless I really was prepared to leave the group. <br />We'll see if I get contacted again.Kate Phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03555660993363611776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5249846981601420959.post-60175603803448385682011-06-26T10:52:07.612-07:002011-06-26T10:52:07.612-07:00Oh holy cow. Wow. Um.
In my dreams, I would do nu...Oh holy cow. Wow. Um.<br /><br />In my dreams, I would do number 4, but I could never do it in real life. I'm not even sure I could do option 3, which I think might be the best response, as in more likely to either bring in some much-needed guidelines or at least get her off YOUR back.<br /><br />So yeah. I would say #3 if you feel up to it, or number 2 if not. It doesn't sound like she'd let it go, so #1, though tempting, probably wouldn't be the end of it.<br /><br />Wow. I suppose a simple reply of "Pot, meet kettle" would go right over her head.ccr in MAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16938353645353176255noreply@blogger.com